My Dear Sweet Harper

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August 28^th, 2012

My Dear Sweet Harper,

I remember the day I found out that I was pregnant… I had barely convinced your father that we should start trying for a baby. He was hesitant but decided that it was okay. I had told him that it might take a long time for us to conceive, turns out it only took us two months for you to come into our lives.

When I took the test and saw two blue lines I was happy but scared. An overwhelm of emotions came through me. I told your father and we began planning for your future.

The 38 weeks that I had with you were wonderful. To be honest being pregnant was not my favorite thing, I was very uncomfortable but happy to be growing you in my belly. We could not wait to meet you.

Unfortunately, God decided that He wanted you in heaven more then He needed you on earth. Why He made that decision I will never know or understand but I trust that whatever decision He makes is the right one.

I will cherish every kick I felt from you.

I hope you knew how much your mommy and daddy loved you. We still love you. We think about you everyday. You will always be our little girl. I know that you are watching us from heaven and that someday we will join you. But I miss you so much.

I wish I could have rocked you to sleep and sang you lullabies. I wish I could have calmed your cry and seen you smile. There were so many dreams I had for your future with us. We wanted you so badly. You are so loved.

Please help to give mommy the strength to survive. My heart is broken for you. You were taken too soon from my life. I know that God has a plan for me but I am having a hard time seeing what that could be. Please help mommy see the grace in God’s plan. I am having difficulty not being angry that you were taken. I do not want to be angry at God. I want to understand.

When you were born you were so beautiful. I am thankful for the time that we got to spend with you in the hospital. Mommy and daddy held you and cried for you. We wish that we would have been able to bring you home with us and raise you. But we had to let you go and we are struggling with that.

I wish I could go back in time and live my pregnancy over again. Just so that I could have more time with you, sweet angel. I wish I would have sang to you and read you stories. I wish I would have been able to save you. But I know that you are in a better place. You are with Jesus. I pray that Jesus is taking care of you, I know that He is. I know you are not alone in heaven, but I feel alone here on earth. I miss you so much baby girl…

Please forgive me for not being able to birth you alive into this world. I hope that some day I will be able to forgive myself.


I will love you forever.

Mommy